How to Know the Difference Between Love and Lust
Is it love or lust?
Often, our minds can get confused with the experiences and you may assume you or your new partner may be in love, when you’re just lusting for each other.
While sexual attraction is great to keep the chemistry alive, it’s no good in keeping a relationship happy and blissful.
When you’re in lust with someone, and not in love, you really don’t care about the future or the happy moments, all you care about is the urges in your pants.
It’s not always clear and easy to find out whether it’s love or lust, but these tips should help you find out if either you or your partner are truly in love or just experiencing lust for each other.
Thoughts at first sight
If you’re filled with happiness and can’t hold your smile back when you see your lover, you’re definitely in love with them. On the other hand, if you meet your lover and the first thing that comes to your mind every single time is how good looking or sexy they are, your relationship is based on lust rather than love.
Your feelings in love
Do you feel happy and romantic all day, and find yourself staring at happy things or smiling without realizing it yourself? You’re probably full of love. Or do you feel really sexy or sexually excited throughout the day? If this is the case, lust is definitely in the air.
Spending time with each other
During the first couple of weeks or months, it’s natural that both of you can’t keep your hands off each other. But once you’re past that, how do both of you spend time with each other?
Do you end up making out all the time or do both of you have a happy conversation? And even if you do make out, do both of you spend the night together or do you kiss and say goodbye after an hour of great sex? If having sex or making out is where all the fun ends, then there’s more lust than love in the relationship. As important as physical intimacy can be, emotional connection too, is of vital importance in long lasting love.
Going out on weekends
So where do you hang out over the weekends? Do you and your partner go out with friends or party all night long, or do both of you go out with each other to a restaurant or some quiet place to spend time with each other?
If you are genuinely in love with each other, you can’t help but want to spend time alone with each other over the weekends. On the other hand, if you’re just looking to have a fun weekend, you’d prefer to spend time with friends, and if it’s lust on your mind, you’d go to a party and run your hands over each other all night. So is it fun, love or lust in your relationship?
How involved are both of you?
Do you think about making out or having sex every time you think of your new lover? It’s great that you’re going out with someone you’re so physically attracted to, but if you truly love your partner, you’d also respect them and would want to hear about their opinion on your life and the issues in it. If you think of your partner only when you’re feeling lonely or horny, there’s a good chance that you don’t really love your new sweetheart, and only lust about them.
Making introductions to your friends
Do you like spending time with your lover, but feel embarrassed or awkward to introduce your partner to your friends? If you subconsciously feel awkward to be with your lover in public, it’s natural that the only reason you’re still together with them is because of the great sex. If you genuinely love your partner, you’d be excited to introduce your sweetheart to all your friends because you’d see your partner as an important part of your life.
Calling each other up
It’s not necessary to speak with each other every hour or so, but it’s always great for the relationship when both of you communicate often. What time of the day do both of you speak more often and what kind of conversations do you have? If either of you speak or text a few times throughout the day, love is definitely in the air. But if the only time you spend on communicating with each other is late at night, and all you talk about is how good it feels to make out, then it’s obviously only lust that’s holding your relationship together.
If both of you truly love each other, you’d think of each other throughout the day, not just at night when you’re all alone and feeling frisky.
What do you want to do when you meet each other?
Do you feel like making out every single time both of you meet each other? You may be going out with a gorgeous stunner, but if sex is all you can think about when you’re with your partner, and you have a hard time keeping your hands off their body, you’ve got a lusty situation in your hands. A bit of cuddling and public display of affection is cute, but if both of you don’t have anything to talk about with each other and need some kissing to keep the clock ticking, you’ve got some serious issues of communication and compatibility to deal with.